I was asked a question recently that surprised me, one I didn’t have a ready answer to. “Why do you think the women in your family are so strong?”
This was on the back of a conversation with my fiancé about my grandmother and how she was an incredibly reserved and demure person who also had a back bone of steel. I reached out to my father to ask him if he could write a few words about her. I wanted to know whether he saw her the same way or if it was the experiences through her life that took her from mother to being a grandmother with those qualities. What I didn’t expect was that in the following 24 hours, she would no longer be there with us.
I started this post with the intention of talking about women. family and the impact they leave. How equality is a practiced philosophy that needs to be worked like a muscle. That intention hasn’t changed, it has however made me more aware of why I wanted to talk about it. It is important to be, so that future generations draw experience and strength from it, so that today’s generations know that someone else carved path for them and have kept drawing humanity along to just keep getting better.
My sister and I were blessed to be raised, nurtured and supported by strong, self-aware, forward thinking women who passed on their learnings in life with generosity and compassion. I wish to do the same.
What makes a person themselves? Is it the environment that they are given to grow up in, is it the education that they are given or demand, is it the intent that they wish to live their life by? How do we encourage that innate sense of self to develop and the confidence to be able to try anything out?
How does freedom of choice drive destiny and how can we get to a stage where equality isn’t just a buzzword that is thrown around, it is one that is practiced.
My sister and I were blessed to be raised, nurtured and supported by strong, self-aware, forward thinking women who passed on their learnings in life with generosity and compassion. I wish to do the same. Share the lessons and ideas that were passed on from my mum, grandmothers and aunts. To chronicle for you the teachings and the anecdotes that have formed our own version of fables. To this, I will talk through my view of femininity and the shades that may be painted to explore it in all its glory. I’d love to hear your thoughts on my blog posts on this topic.
I am sad that my grandmothers are no longer here with us today but I am eternally grateful for the time that they gave and the knowledge that they shared. That lives on in my grandfathers, and through them the family that they created and the lives they touched. The interconnectedness of family is reflective of that of the world. We are all connected in ways that are as eternal, whether it is shared ideas, values or perspective. And these will and should change…change is good, growth is good, at the same time a strong foundation is also important. In my case it is family. What’s yours?